Kaori is just awesome but see, I could propose the following argument.Yes, I love the French in figure skating in general.
I guess I could make my points clearer when I would have a video show and would point at the movements. I think a lot is in the movements of the hands, the tilting of the head... like, of course Janet Jackson per se is not what I'm looking for, but the way this program is done, the choreo combined with Kaori's way of moving is different - but like I said, for me that's a bit of an in-between program. About Bonaly I agree with your checklist - that's why I said often they are just different in one aspect.
Kaori is skating like a very strong emancipated woman. She's the ultimate role model for what femininity in figure skating could look like in the 21st century
I think a lot of this is cultural. Then some is personal perspective or perception. It's quite hard to pin point.