- Joined
- Dec 16, 2008
As a mother of two daughters (they are only 4 and 5), this thread is very helpful.
After reading hongligl's comment, I think I have to warn myself not to be an education-minded mother( I've already put my one leg into this...).
But after reading bellarina's comment, again I think I'm right. Honestly, I'm still wandering though.
Umm... difficult situation, but I can't imagine that I put our resources into only one child even if she has the possibilty to be a world champion. This is my opinion, and I don't think Yuna's mam is wrong.
One thing I would like to add is that I'm totally against the idea of fullfilling yourself through your children. To me, I just want to help my daughter to be the best she wants to be, she is not me and will never be me. No matter how well or bad she does, it is her business, not a reflection of me. I will never push my child for myself. That IS selfish. I would never ask my child to kill herself or get lost if she didn't do as well as I expected.
After reading hongligl's comment, I think I have to warn myself not to be an education-minded mother( I've already put my one leg into this...).
It was only when I got older that I realized that, if not for my mom, I would never be where I was now. I would never have gotten in an Ivy League college if not for the way she raised me and stressed the importance of academics. I'm a lazy sort, and sometimes (well, most of the time, really), just working for myself is not enough. If I know that someone will be disappointed and angry if I don't do well, I step it up. And now, I've realized, I do it for myself, but wouldn't have learned to do that if not for my mom. That's not to say that other parenting styles are ineffective, of course, just that for me personally, it brought out the best in me. And, as I realized later, it was all for my well-being, so that I could be happy in the future.
But after reading bellarina's comment, again I think I'm right. Honestly, I'm still wandering though.
All I'm really curious, how would everyone else act in this situation?
Umm... difficult situation, but I can't imagine that I put our resources into only one child even if she has the possibilty to be a world champion. This is my opinion, and I don't think Yuna's mam is wrong.