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Yes, this is correct. I know this from having edited newspaper "society" stories for many years. As a married woman, she could be Tanith Belbin, Tanith Belbin White, Tanith Belbin-White or Mrs. Charlie White. (It used to be automatically Mrs. Charlie White, but then papers started asking for the woman's choice, which added even more work to it.) But it would never be Mrs. Tanith White; that denotes divorced. If (heaven forbid) she were to become a widow, her name would still not be Mrs. Tanith White; she would retain the name used previously. As an additional detail: when both names are used (such as an engagement announcement of a child), the old form would have been Mr. and Mrs. Charlie White. These days, if married, the parents might instead use Charlie and Tanith White. If written as Charlie White and Tanith White, it would denote divorced. It gets confusing when there are different last names: Charlie White and Tanith Belbin, or Charlie White and Tanith Belbin-White, could mean either married or divorced.
Congratulations Charlie and Tanith!
^^This is very interesting, thank you! The "Mrs Tanith White" = divorced is news to me!
Where I come from, most women still take their husbands last name, partly for convenience's sake (future kids, the whole family share the same name). But gradually it's changing; Among my acquaintance, most took the husbands name, some use a hyphenated version (Belbin White would not be allowed here for some reason, in Sweden it's ok) and some kept their own. In the case of 4 of my friend-couples, the bride wanted to keep her own name but the hubby was more traditional so took her name, because "a family should share one last name!".
In the case of divorce, some women keep their new surname - especially if they have kids - some revert back to the old one. Some keep it simply because they like it and they really disliked their original. One of my friends kept her new surname after her divorce, because it was shorter and matched her first name nicely
I was never fond of my surname so I was super pleased when I could take my husband's. (I did ask him first if he wanted me to, of course). I think I'd keep it even if we divorced.
But, everywhere here I'm "Mrs TMC Myhusbandssurname", and this tells everybody that I'm totally married to this guy with the unusual surname, never divorced.
I love this board so much because you always learn something new here