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The article is very careful to not connect Vanessa to any allegations, to the point of referring to her as 'his [Morgan's] partner' rather than using her name at one point, and leaving her out of the discussion almost completely. That suggests to me that at this point they have no evidence or allegations linking Vanessa to the abuse, no evidence that she was aware of it and failed in any duty she may have had as a mandatory report, and no evidence that she was involved in the cover-up, and are being very careful not to imply that she might have been as a result.
That's been discussed more than once in this thread. The boundary-transgressing, dare-like nature of the request, which takes some of the things that girls on the edge of adolescence might think or joke about between themselves when trying on ideas about growing up and gets them to act on them in a way they otherwise wouldn't (which could be judged to cause a guilt/shame reaction coupled with a transgressive thrill that would confuse them into silence, and also make the inevitable next, bigger request seem less bad), coupled with the childish 'bribe' of pizza that makes it seem less important than it is, plus the fact that they actually did it, plus the fact that when the girls clearly didn't stay silent about it/the parents realised what had happened the coach/es immediately switched to threatening them into silence, suggests very strongly that the girls were already being groomed for abuse, if not outright abused already, by that coach. Or possibly by the coach and Cipres working together.
Good lord, I hate knowing the kind of stuff you learn when you get trained as a mandatory reporter.
Another thing it's important to remember when dealing with this kind of situation is that abusers don't only groom the children they abuse; they condition the adults around those children to accept them and their boundary-crossing too, and this gives them a crew of defenders if the children do speak out. I'm seeing way too many of those dynamics reflected in what's been reported so far to be willing to discount the possibility that not only did Morgan Cipres engage in sexual misconduct towards these two girls, but at least one other person at the rink did so too.
Can I just say thank you to you for what you do as a mandatory reporter.
Too many people are ignorant of the true facts around grooming and how insidious it is.